How Choosing Yourself Changes Everything: A Lesson from an Adult Ballet Class

Not too long ago, I did something the old me would have never done.

I signed up for an adult ballet class—all by myself.

And if you knew me years ago, you’d know how out of character that would have been.

The old me? She would have never signed up.

Too scared of judgment. Too anxious about doing it alone.

I would have overanalyzed it. What if I look ridiculous? What if everyone stares at me? What if I don’t belong?

For so long, I lived in anxious attachment and avoidance—so worried about what others thought that I wouldn’t even let myself try.

But last night?

I didn’t feel judged.
I didn’t even care if I was.
I was just… grateful to be there.

And that moment reminded me of just how much I’ve changed.

How Fear of Judgment Keeps You Stuck

For years, I let the fear of other people’s opinions dictate my choices.

I hesitated. I overthought. I played small to avoid discomfort.

And I know I’m not alone in this.

So many high-achievers and ambitious women do the same. You tell yourself you’re just being practical, that now isn’t the right time, that you’ll start when you feel more confident.

But deep down, the real reason is fear:

• Fear of looking foolish
• Fear of not being good enough
• Fear of what other people will say

But here’s the truth: Waiting until you feel ready is the fastest way to stay stuck.

Because confidence doesn’t come first. Action does.

What Happens When You Choose Yourself

This morning, as I sat down to journal, the reality of it hit me:

I’m so thankful for where I am.
Thankful that I chose myself.
And continue to choose myself—every single day.

For the first time in my life, I’m not waiting for external validation to tell me I’m allowed to take up space.

I no longer let:
❌ People’s opinions define me
❌ Circumstances dictate my choices
❌ Society’s expectations shape my path

Instead, I lead with love.
I trust God’s plan.
I follow what brings me peace.

And life? It feels so much lighter this way.

Is It Luck or a Choice?

Sometimes, I almost feel too lucky to have this level of calm.

But then I remember—this isn’t luck.

This is what happens when you stop waiting for permission and start choosing you.

It’s what happens when you decide:

✨ You are worthy of stepping outside your comfort zone.
✨ You don’t need approval to go after what you want.
✨ Your dreams, your joy, your growth—they’re yours to claim.

Where Are You Holding Yourself Back?

If you’ve ever held yourself back out of fear of judgment, I want you to ask yourself:

• What’s something I want to do but keep postponing?
• What’s one small step I can take toward it today?
• Who would I be if I stopped waiting for “the right time” and just started?

Because here’s the thing—there’s no right time.

The only way to build confidence, trust yourself, and create a life you love is to start now.

So, what will you choose today?

If you’re ready to start choosing yourself—without guilt, without fear, and without waiting for permission—I’d love to support you.

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